Therapy helps busy moms take care of themselves so that they can take care of everything else.
I often hear from overwhelmed and exhausted mother's that the notion of sitting in a room to talk about their feelings sounds like a true waste of time. Your time is precious. If you do have an hour to yourself it needs to be used wisely! Well moms, I hear you! As you manage the schedules of everyone else in your household, trying to find the time for yourself is more akin to being a professional magician pulling off your latest magic trick! What if I told you that your one hour spent in counseling could lead to many more hours of connection, engagement, and joy with yourself and your family. As a Mom, therapy can provide you with:
1. Sacred space that is your and yours alone.
When was the last time you had some quiet moments in your life that were not disturbed by motherhood duty? How about time for self-reflection? I'm guessing its hard to even fathom what that may look like. Therapy holds a space that allows you to be present with yourself, with your thoughts, and yes your emotions. Your emotions are meant to be expressed and listened to by a trusted and safe guardian that in turns helps you to use them for growth and change. Feelings of guilt and shame are not be kept to yourself in isolation. Feeling like you are not yourself is not a way to keep on living. Hoping for things to one day just get better, doesn't always mean they will. There is a better way, there is a path towards change, hope and happiness, and best yet you don't have to do it alone.
2. Relief from your overwhelm & stress
Motherhood comes with its own set of scary emotions.
Fear, guilt, shame to name a few.
Emotions are fluid, they come and go. Yet, it is easy to get lost in their power and presence when we are stressed and overwhelmed. Reducing stress allows you to operate from a more calm, collected and confidant place to react and respond to your family.
3. Hope, Joy, & Comfort
Facing your negative thoughts and feelings head on allows you to rid the tremendous weight and power that they hold over you. When you confide in your best friend, you may experience relief and comfort that someone else can empathize and relate to what you are going through. We thrive in connection with others, we heal and grow from it. Therapists are trained to create change by allowing our clients to be seen as exactly who they are and help them get to where they want to be. We have the education to treat emotional pain to help you feel better. We give language, and context to your internal world, to help you make sense of it and take pride in knowing who you are.
4. Redefine who you are and reclaiming what it feels like to be yourself.
From the moment you became a parent, your whole life changed. Find the time to acknowledge that sometimes even with all of the positive emotions, there are also feelings that are scary, shameful and difficult to experience as well. The journey to motherhood is not always happy go lucky. Finding time to redefine who you are and how you interact in the world outside of the 4 walls of your therapists office provides a catalyst to living the life you've imagined. Knowing that with each difficult emotion and experience you have a place to come back to, to rediscover what nourishes and helps you to feel whole to carry on your day is a wonderful, relieving, and hopeful experience. And at times even perhaps a bit magical.
I hope this helps you discover how valuable an hour spent on your needs each week can be for your wellbeing. If you are still unsure or would like to discuss further, please call me at (310) 893-4634 for a free phone consultation. I’d be happy to hear about what is happening and help determine if counseling may be helpful.