The beginning of a new year brings about the possibility for new beginnings. It’s refreshing to hit a mental “restart” button, and set new intentions and goals as we reflect on our lives with a fresh pair of eyes. As you look to create resolutions for this new year, you may find it easier to create your resolutions than keep them. I have found, that oftentimes, resolutions also come with the implicit expectation that overnight we will become a new and improved version of ourselves and magically be able to accomplish large/lofty goals. This pressure is unrealistic and albeit unnecessary to accomplish your goals. You don't need to become a new person to make changes in your life. I’ll even arguing that in order to make real change in your life you first need to know yourself, become comfortable with who you are, and develop self-kindness as you embark on working towards your goals.
Acceptance & Acknowledgement
It’s difficult to change when you don’t know yourself well. When we set intentions to change an aspect of our lives, we often forget to take into account how to work through the challenges that oftentimes keep us stuck or unable to accomplish what we set out to do. To truly follow through on our resolutions, we have to first acknowledge and accept who we are, including our limitations and what we can not change. This is all easier said then done and requires a consistent practice of being kind to yourself in the process.
Set realistic goals and break them down into smaller more tangible goals
When creating goals, break them down into smaller, more tangible goals that are measurable and can become a part of your daily routine. For instance, if your goal is to get “healthy” this year, break down of how you’d like to get “healthy”. Will you be changing your food or exercise habits? If so mark down the frequency and how it can fit into your existing schedule.
Its okay to fail...
As you work towards your goals, prepare for setbacks. Change is rarely linear, nor is it easy. When creating real change, it’s okay if things don't always go as you had hoped or planned. Sometimes we may take 2 steps forward and 4 steps back, while another time we take 5 steps forward and 1 step back. Learning to ride out the waves, how to encounter challenges so that you know how to continue working towards your goal is what’s important. A new year doesn't promise a new you, but it can promise an amazing opportunity to set new goals.